0 Facing Reality

3.6.2021 Facing Reality It sounds easy. It's not. So many people refuse to face reality, to accept it as it is. When getting sick, they rush to go to a doctor and never look into themselves. Never seek the real cause, the real evil. They just dull the senses and eleviate the pain as soon as possible. Most people don't read books and don't understand the fact, they reality. When they have problems, their first respond is to flight or fight. They don't try to understand the problem and face it as it is. Normally they would blame someone or something for their problems. Sometime they blame fate. In short they are not responsible for the problems. They refuse to look deeper into it. It's painful to find out that they are the cause of the problems. The key of power is understanding. They don't have this. So they are weak and make wrong decisions again and again. They would blame everything else except themselves. Their ignorance is legendary. Fear Every human being feel fear. It becomes the drive of so many decisions they make. People work in an office or company because of fear to live in poverty. They don't work there to be rich. They know it's impossible to get rich by making that decision because what they get is very little, equal to what they give. They just be able to live like others, just enought to pay for daily expences. If they are courageous, they should open their own business. It's risky and they are not ready to face the fear and the risk everyday. They won't get paycheck every month and that seems terrible. It's too complicated and fearful to think for their own improvement everyday to survive, better just dull their senses and escape the fear of risk and get monthly paycheck. In reality, when we face fear everyday, it's not that scary. It will be normal and later natural. We can see deeper into our own psychology and become braver and then take better decision in life. If I work for myself to create my own products, the first several years will be hard years. But after that life will get better and improve exponently. While working for others is the opposite, the first several years is the easiest years and then decline, one often stuck there and loss their ability to do anything else. The fear to be independence is growing bigger by time. Life will turn into merely repetition and schedule.

0 The secret of happiness

2.6.2021 The secret of happiness People want happiness, it's the purpose of life for most people. Just like wealth, most people don't have it. There is no secret to happiness as well as to wealth. Every individual has their own criteria and definition about it. It's relative and therefore depends on the minds. The happiness of individual depends on the happiness of family, friends, and society as well. It's never singular and separate case. Id an individual lives alone in an island, his happiness is very different compare to those who live in the city. Happiness or wellbeing is somewhat change every time depends on the understanding that one has as an individual and as social being. Therefore happiness is very difficult to get because people don't even understand it. Ask people what they really want, their answer would be happiness. Then ask them to elaborate in detail, they often don't understand about their own conception. It's too abstract and general. Imagine you go to an address in another country but the address is not detail, can get there? very difficult. According to Spinoza, power equals happiness and the true power is understanding. I agree completely to him. Therefore thue happiness is understanding. Our world is limited by our knowledge. One doesn't live in a country, one lives in a language. Those who know several languages live in several worlds. Reality is difference from individual to individual. No one sees the and perceives the same event totally same. So suffering is subjective. Your suffering is not my suffering, your happiness is not my happiness. Socrates said that "There is only one good, knowledge, and one evil, ignorance." Ignorance people believe that money will bring happiness. It's half true. Money bring happiness and unhappiness equally. It gives you safety and danger equally. Money makes you greedy. Understanding is different. It brings peaceful of mind. Most problems and sufferings are imagination. Today, because of globalization, the richest man doesn't enjoy better foods than most people, they don't enjoy better TV shows, better entertainment, all people basically enjoy the same thing. The richest people are not much happier than normal people. Money doesn't buy happiness. It buys the illusion of happiness. The study of lottery winners prove this statement, a year after they win the lottery, their happiness come back to the previous level, some even get worse.

0 Small Daily Task

1.6.2021 "A small daily task, if it be really daily, will beat the labours of a spasmodic Hercules." Anthony Trollope I woke up late this morning. I called my girlfriend last night for four hours. I am exciting because we are getting married soon. Life will change for good or for bad. Change is the nature of life. I change second by second without realizing what's happening. Normally I would wake up very early and then write anything. I'm a writer even if no one read my writing for now. It's ok, as long as I write, I am a writer. I should have done this daily routine long ago but I just didn't. Reading Atomic Habit by James Clear made me realize that everything is doable as long as I do it little by little every day. In the past, I would do it randomely based on my mood. Today I know that if it's important, I must do it every single day, little by little. It makes sense. The biggest tree grows little by little. The first step is to decide what to do and then do it every day, little by little, and after the habit is there, work on it as hard as you can. Now I'm working on my youtube channel and writing articles every day. In 5 or 10 years, it will be very different. Most people do not have the patience to see the result. So most of them do not have long term goal that is done daily little by little. I'm an English teacher and have been teaching for more than ten years. I know very well that most students who study English at school, by the time they graduate from high school, their English is still poor and they can't confidently say that "I can speak English". Twelve years studying for nothing. They do not do it daily and consistently. They study as little as possible and they don't take the responsibility of that task. It's not their personal agenda and studying is not important enough for them. It's pseudo study, their failing is not surprising at all, it's predictable. I hope I realized this long ago. But now it's not too late. I started to work on my personal agenda every day, little by little continuously. I want to be a writer, i just need to write every single day. In ten years or maybe twenty years I will be a good writer and happy about it. Ask anyone what is their dream, most of them will have no direct answer. They have not decided yet and so they work for others in an office or company. No matter how much money they get from their company, they will spend them all. They are still unhappy because they sell their life time and labour. Actually to build a habit is not so difficult. Just start from the habit that already established and attach the new habit to it. For example, wake up in the morning then write for a page or for 5 minutes. Anyone can do this. Just do it every single day no matter what. After several months, writing has become one of the established habit, it will be easy to do as easy as brushing teeth before sleep. Do not be a perfectionist, just do it, day in day out. Do not attach too much feeling and emotion to it. Feel free and ease. This is the key to build a new habit. It must start small and daily. The purpose is just to build a solid habit and nothing else, the result is the habit itself.