0 Trust Your Hope Not Your Fear

It sounds easy to say it. And it is so sweet. But actually most people live with their fear. Mostly we fear about our status, what people would say about us. It's so demanding that all of us have to be success people. Unfortunately, we also do not have choice to define our own success. We live in meritocratic society where anyone who has energy and capacity can achieve anything. People call it American dream, if you work hard you will get what you want. If you have fire, no one can stop you, nothing can stop you. The problem is that we do not always get what we want, and it causing depression and feeling failure. About a century ago people believe that everything is fate from the God. We have sympathy to unfortunate person, but now we are in charge to take the responsibility of our life. If success people will admit it and if fail people will call us loser. The reason why we feel more miserable nowadays is that we are surrounded by snobs. Snobs are people who judge us based one on part of our life, mostly job snobbery. So, the iconic question of 21st Century is "what do you do". And people treat us based on our respond toward that question. These things make our life full of anxiety. Society will respect us based on our achievement. On the other side people feeling unhappy because of advertisement. Watching advertisement make people always miss something. Now, all people hope to be successful on every area of their life. Actually we cannot success on everything. There will always element of loss to get success. We have to sacrifice something to get success, maybe time and energy or even family. An on the end of the journey, many people still feel miserable because their success is not actually what they want. (this is my summary of Alain de Botton TED Speech "A Kinder, Gentler, Philosophy")